something that we all need to learn

So I have been slowly reading this book that my mother gave me at the beginning of the year. It's an amazing book but I just never have time to read. Every time I read it, I learn something new. It is called Become a Better you by Joel Osteen. At first I was like,, or not. His picture is on the front with his big toothy grin and the picture of him and his wife in the back is just scary it looks so fake. But I started to read it anyway. Today I got to a chapter called, learning to like yourself. I am going to share some of it with you it really spoke a lot.

" Jesus said, "love your neighbor as yourself" Notice the prerequisite to loving others is to love yourself. If you don't have a healthy respect for who you are, and if you don't learn to accept yourself faults and all, you will never be able to properly love other people. Unfortunately, self- loathing destroys many relationships nowadays.
I've met many people who think that their spouse is the reason they can't get along in their marriage. Or they're sure it's their coworker's fault, but the act is they have a civil war raging on the inside. They don't like their looks, they don't like where they are in life, they are upset because they haven't broken a bad habit, and that poison spills out into their relationships.
Understand, you can't give away what you don't have. If you don't love yourself you aren't going to be able to love others. If you're at strife on the inside, feeling angry or insecure about yourself, feeling unattractive, feeling condemned, then that's all you can give away. On the other hand, if you'll recognize that God is working on you, and in spite of your flaws and weaknesses, you can learn to accept yourself. Then you can give that love away and have healthy relationships. ....
That's why it's so important that you feel good about who you are. You may have some faults. You may have some things you wish you could change about yourself. Well, join the crowd. We all do. But lighten up and quit being so hard on yourself. Interestingly, we might never criticize another person or tell him or her, "You are really dumb; You're unattractive, you're undisciplined, I don't like you." Yet we don't have a problem saying it to ourselves. But understand that when you criticize yourself, you are criticizing God's ultimate creation....
Many people are their own worst enemies. "Well, I'm so over weight. I've blown my diet. I don't spend enough time with my children. I am so undisciplined. I didn't even clean my house last week. Surely, God is not pleased with me."
Don't step into that trap. The Scripture indicates that God has already approved and accepted you. It doesn't say God approves you as long as you live a perfect life. No, it says God approves you unconditionally, just as you are. Frankly, it's not because of what you have or haven't done; God loves you because of who you are and who He is. God is Love. You are a child of the most high God. If God approves you, Why don't you approve yourself? Shake off guilt, condemnation, inadequacies, and a sense that you can't measure up and start feeling good about who you are."

So that is just the first 2 pages. I haven't even read the rest of the chapter